THE SCHEDULE

I AM ANNOUNCING THE NEW SCHEDULE FOR THE BLOG IN ORDER TO MAKE POSTING A MORE FREQUENT THING FOR MYSELF AND THE MEMBERS.

MONDAYS WILL BE: LAST WEEKEND MONDAYS- Just give a tid bit about how your weekend was and what ya did.

TUESDAY WILL BE: TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS TUESDAYS- Pretty much self explanatory, just let us know something you may be fighting with yourself about and or your significant other.

WEDNESDAYS WILL BE: "WHAT IF WEDNESDAYS"- I and the members if they like will come up with a random question starting with "what if" and then others can post in response. Try and be detailed and creative. Please no 1 word posts lol.

THURSDAYS WILL BE: THOUGHTFUL THURSDAYS- This is a day where you can post a thought about something you think you want to put out there be it advice, a question, and or whatever in that vicinity.

FRIDAYS WILL BE: OPEN FORUM FRIDAYS-You can post anything you want its totally up to you.

PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF YOU GUYS HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS AND OR QUESTIONS ABOUT THIS

THANKS AGAIN TO ALL OF YOU FOR TAKING PART IN THIS BLOG!!!!!!!!

SINCERELY

TROY R.

Never Letting It Get Old

Lately I have notice one or two of my close friends letting their relationships start to take a turn to "the norm". When I say the norm I mean the basic day to day things that don't really make a difference in a relationship but can make the relationship old FAST!!! lol. I think that this happens a lot in relationships especially now-a-days. Most people need something crazy to happen in order for that love to spark back up and get that first week of dating feeling back. I think there should be more time spent on surprises and small things done together to keep that rejuvenating feeling there. I have recently found that I as well was falling into "the Norm" aka "Auto-pilot". I then spent an evening with my lady and we were up all night listening to super old R&B and Jazz tracks from when we were kids and just reminiscing about past times and thinking about future ones together. She really liked that and I was so "wowed" because it was just so easy. Then last weekend we were going to go somewhere to show some friends who came in town a good time but we were super low on cash. Of course I was irritated and then here aunt took us to hollywood blvd and all we spent was 15 bucks for parking. It was a blast we did some window shopping, tried on some hats and took pics in them, and just walked around and made some future plans to visit some of the museums up there. It's amazing how the little things make the world go round. Dont ever take them for granted and never let the relationship hit auto pilot or you are risking death at the wheel....

Wanting Attention!!!

I am having some trouble detecting how much attention I want in a relationship and also how much I need. I know you shouldn't be so wrapped into someone that they don't have their own life but... How much is too much and how little is not enough?

I am begining to realize that I require a lot of attention and correct me if I am wrong... but I am trying to see who else feels this way. I think I do it in a healthy way also, cuz I dont want the kind of attention like "listen to me", "lets talk about me" "lets be all about me"... I just want the attention that ask for a small part of that persons day. To feel acknowleged, loved and cherished... and really just time with no interruptions to share with my love.

My boyfriend seems to be a lot more busy than me lately and finds the time to get his professional work done, work on his body, and his personal work and goals... I love that about him! I do think he should make the same amount of time and thought into how you can work on a relationship each day. I am not saying he doesnt do this either. I merely want advice on how I am being.
See I was talking to some girlfriends and its not to put him on the spot or accuse in any way... its just to admit that me and my guy and any relationship finds glitches in their communication ... we talked and I see how communication can change the whole situation.

Communication, just a simple acknowledgement or even "I am thinking about you"... "I'm going to do this now, but lets plan something for a later time", makes all the difference, it makes the other feel like you are in his thoughts. See... but assuming that the other person will be available when you are ... now that isnt so good. I think communication is really important in relationships and its not about just talking to someone but its the way you talk to them about a situation as well. Being gone all week and then saying that... well I had something secretly planned for us on Saturday, (as an example) is kind of insulting. Its like saying im going to be on my own do my own thing... and when i have time for you I am going to surprise you with that time... so dont be surprised if your significant other is not available Saturday. I think communication and planning would help to avoid those situations.

All in all, I guess what I have learned is communication, not taking others for granted and saying what is on your mind. Of course in a graceful kind of way... just be open to apologizing for what you said later.

I am looking for thoughts and advice and never deem myself as someone who knows whats going on. Am I the only one that requires attention? Do you think there are times in your life you want attention more than others? How to bounce back from that?

Settling Down

I recently came across a situation a young lady posted on twitter. Basically she started off by saying she is in a situation where she feels no man can be faithful and that she is on her own with her baby for the rest of her life. She has a daughter I am not sure how old she is but non the less I just wanted to touch base on the topic because it sparked my interest. She goes on to say how a man in her life proposed to her out of the blue. She was excited about the situation and all but she knew that she was not in love with this man and that she was still not totally ready to trust a man to be in her life and be totally true. On the flip side of it she feels this may be her last chance to have a family and that she should just settle down with him and hope she falls in love with him. Her grandmother did this with her grandfather and it worked. She is only 20 years old but she has been through some sticky situations with men and not to mention she has a kid.

My thoughts:

I feel that she is jumping the gun in a huge way here and that she should just be patient until a good man actually comes along and is mature enough to accept her for who she is in her situation and love her for who she is. People (men and women alike) feel that they have hit the end of the road and that whatever they can get is all there is instead of fighting for it or being patient. I believe strongly that there is someone for everyone. I totally understand what she is going through because I went through the same thing with my ex at about the same age as this young lady. I understand that you feel that you are stuck with this person and there may be no one else. I have grown to realize that is all not true. I have found someone in just a short year who is the greatest woman I have ever met in my entire life. I just waited through trial and error, mistakes, and hard times but I came out on top. Anything is possible and God has a plan for us all. Just sit tight and wait for your turn in the "blessing line" and right when you think your time is up someone will pop up and blow your mind. Just remember to be yourself and that person will love you for it. I promise. ;-)

WELCOME!

I am starting this Blog because I am a very relationship oreinted person. I have been in a lot of different predicaments when it comes to the topic, both good and bad. I just want to share my knowledge with whomever wants it and or is interested. I am 22 years old but I have an old soul. I have always been more mature than people around me even those older. I grew up pretty quick but I came out a great person from other people's and my own judgement. My mission is to start a wave that will change the dating game to the way it should be. Gentleman and Ladies acting the part. Nobody is perfect but there are ways to live as close as possible with your own ability. With that being said I welcome all to the blog and I want to extend a very grateful thanks to all who join. I look forward to talking to you.