I am having some trouble detecting how much attention I want in a relationship and also how much I need. I know you shouldn't be so wrapped into someone that they don't have their own life but... How much is too much and how little is not enough?I am begining to realize that I require a lot of attention and correct me if I am wrong... but I am trying to see who else feels this way. I think I do it in a healthy way also, cuz I dont want the kind of attention like "listen to me", "lets talk about me" "lets be all about me"... I just want the attention that ask for a small part of that persons day. To feel acknowleged, loved and cherished... and really just time with no interruptions to share with my love.
My boyfriend seems to be a lot more busy than me lately and finds the time to get his professional work done, work on his body, and his personal work and goals... I love that about him! I do think he should make the same amount of time and thought into how you can work on a relationship each day. I am not saying he doesnt do this either. I merely want advice on how I am being.
See I was talking to some girlfriends and its not to put him on the spot or accuse in any way... its just to admit that me and my guy and any relationship finds glitches in their communication ... we talked and I see how communication can change the whole situation.
Communication, just a simple acknowledgement or even "I am thinking about you"... "I'm going to do this now, but lets plan something for a later time", makes all the difference, it makes the other feel like you are in his thoughts. See... but assuming that the other person will be available when you are ... now that isnt so good. I think communication is really important in relationships and its not about just talking to someone but its the way you talk to them about a situation as well. Being gone all week and then saying that... well I had something secretly planned for us on Saturday, (as an example) is kind of insulting. Its like saying im going to be on my own do my own thing... and when i have time for you I am going to surprise you with that time... so dont be surprised if your significant other is not available Saturday. I think communication and planning would help to avoid those situations.
All in all, I guess what I have learned is communication, not taking others for granted and saying what is on your mind. Of course in a graceful kind of way... just be open to apologizing for what you said later.
I am looking for thoughts and advice and never deem myself as someone who knows whats going on. Am I the only one that requires attention? Do you think there are times in your life you want attention more than others? How to bounce back from that?
I wanna begin by thanking you Stacy for being the first of the followers to make an actual post and for being a participant in the blog. It's greatly appreciated. Ok now on to your topic. I think that is subject is one of those thin line topics. I think that sometimes someone can want too much attention and sometimes a person can want to be left alone too much. It really depends on the other party. If your boyfriend wants to be left alone too much or more than you want to be then let him know and tell him you need/want him around you more. I am sure he will be fine with that as long as he is real. Remember relationships are about compromise and when you come to an agreement both parties need to stick to it. If your boyfriend is busier than he has been before then just sit him down and talk to him and or just do something to draw his attention (something positive). I think, from what it sounds like, that you just want to have a little more 1 on 1 time with your man and there's nothing wrong with that just let him know and try to arrange as best you can around his and your schedule. Good Luck! I know it will work out in your favor =)
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