Wednesday, August 5, 2009
WELCOME!
I am starting this Blog because I am a very relationship oreinted person. I have been in a lot of different predicaments when it comes to the topic, both good and bad. I just want to share my knowledge with whomever wants it and or is interested. I am 22 years old but I have an old soul. I have always been more mature than people around me even those older. I grew up pretty quick but I came out a great person from other people's and my own judgement. My mission is to start a wave that will change the dating game to the way it should be. Gentleman and Ladies acting the part. Nobody is perfect but there are ways to live as close as possible with your own ability. With that being said I welcome all to the blog and I want to extend a very grateful thanks to all who join. I look forward to talking to you.
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I think this is such a great idea. Going through a breakup myself helps to hear other peoples stories or even advice/ comments. Just recently i have started to be open about my relationship as it has always been hard to share. what keeps me sane n willing to move on are my family and my best friends (central B's). I had a 5 1/2 year relationship, it was great in the beggining but like every relationship, we went through hardships. He grew up in another country so something kept him going back for months. I didnt understand but i kept takin him back everytime he came. to make a long story short, he wasnt being faithful at all as i found out. the last 2 years have been hard because no matter what iI take him back. Why? i ask myself.. Its not healthy for me or even him. could it be that i take him back cuz he was my first love, my first "real" relationship, or my first live in boyfriend? I still cant answer that. What im dealing with right now is that I really dont want to deal with the whole situation. I choose not to feel sad or even cry, even though I feel dead inside. what am I so scared about? I know the best thing for me is todeal with all my emotions cuz that will help me move on. I also still keep communication with him. is this okay? is this hurting me? Im looking for ways to ease the pain if thats even possible. But like my best friends told me that sharing and talking about it is a start. Thank you Troy for making this blog.. hope this will be able to help many, either by sharing thier story or helping others. Thanks for your help =*(
ReplyDeleteJaydreamer first I wanna say thank you for your participation in this blog and making it your own. I understand your pain and confusion and what you may think every time you think about the situation. Honestly in my last relationship I was the one who was on the side like you but I was the one running back and making up for what I thought was wrong. At the end I felt like a fool and an ass. It was like I woke up from a terrible dream. I was worried about what my friends thought about me I had hurt my close relationship with my mother and some close friends. I was all about her. I will no longer be that way and I am sure neither will you. Take your situation for what it is and nothing else. Don't be ashamed to be honest. You are you and you went through that hard time for whatever reason that's all there is. Just keep your head up and make those mistakes that you went through your guide for the future. Know what you will take and what you will not take. Just remember not to make the next one pay for what the last one did. Love hard with no regret. Don't be scared to get hurt follow your heart and dive in when you feel and be reserved when you feel. Just be you and you will be fine. Your a very great person and you have a lot to offer. Trust me there is someone out there looking for you ;-)
ReplyDeleteThank you for the advice troy! i have my good and bad days.. but I know once this is all over I will be a lot stronger. Is it normal to be afraid to completely loose this person?? as I know he has someone else so it makes it harder beacause i Feel "what is wrong with me" and it makes me feel embarrassed and ashamed of the whole situation. When you give your whole heart to someone you expect the same in return and instead you get half or nothing at all, in return I put the blame in myself. I know i shouldnt but I do. Knowing that there are other people that go through the same thing and hearing their stories helps me out a great deal.... Im glad you are sharing what you have been through too. Thank you Troy!
ReplyDeleteIt's not weird that you feel some attachment to this person still and or may be still in love. You just have to come to a realization of what is and isn't meant to be. It will take some time and it will be up and down but If you stay focused and smart you will come out better off without someone who isn't COMEPLETLY down for you. As far as you thinking something is wrong with you, that's also normal it's a human instinct to think the problem is with you. It's NOT. It just is what it is. That's all. Here's a tid bit for you jaydreamer and all who read this. Men are in most cases scared to settle down and be with one woman. It's only the strong men who can fight off the natural urge to take risks with love and other people's feelings. This is not a trait only found in men it is also found in women sometimes as well. It just depends on the person. I personally have noticed that people with a positive upbringing tend to be the ones who have stronger more genuine feelings. BUT I do know plenty of people who have come out the mud clean. You will be surprised how strong and quick your perception will be once you spend more time in the single lane. I really suggest you take some time and just date and let your feelings lead you. Be Smart at all times!!! I had a year of being single between my current relationship and my last one. I dated a few girls on different levels and I went through "she's my next girl" and "she's just gonna be around for a few more weeks at most" lol after it all I know exactly how to approach situations and arguments. Like I said I don't know it all but in my experience I think you should just take some time off and play the field a lil. You won't always get what you give thats just life. If you always got what you gave then things would be too easy and everyone would be the same. So find your standards and what you want to get in your next relationship and I guarantee though trial and error you will find it. ;-)
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ReplyDeleteWow Troy, what a lovely blog. It's so nice to have a man's perspective on relationships as well as someone who's had a lot of experience in that department. I look forward to following your blog and learning a little bit more about you :)
ReplyDeleteThis is great guys :)
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